For a Christian couple that are dating,
Is it ok to go on holiday together or do you need a chaperone?
As for the rooms...........
(YES Atheists we are the fundie types that wait until marriage!)Christian Dating advice?
I don't believe you need a chaperone when God is watching at all times. If you love God %26amp; fear Him, you won't do anything to compromise your relationship with Him. Maybe you should try adjoining rooms, or one room with double beds. Hope this helps.Christian Dating advice?
Do you plan to give into temptation?
A chaperone is required to keep you from sinning. If you can be a good Christian, skip the chaperone.
As far as I'm concerned, if you wanted to sleep in the same bed naked, it would be okay. That's not a sin. Engaging in carnal knowledge would be sinning.
And Atheists aren't about free love and sexual freedom. Don't presume that you have a moral high ground over atheists. There are good reasons not to engage in sex outside of a committed relationship that have nothing to do with religion. God is not required for monogamy.
It would be more fun to find another Christian dating couple to go along, rather than a ';chaperone'; per se. Separate rooms are a must if you are trying to ';avoid the appearance of evil.'; Beyond that, try to keep her parents happy, if you want to keep her happy.
Why would you need a chaperon? Would you not trust yourselves?
YES I KNOW YOU ARE A FUNDIE :)
But in your beliefs, doesn't God already know what you are going to do? And.... who would it matter to if you had a chaperon... that seems like more of a social standard than a real religious one.
If you can control yourself from doing it with your girl.
If not, why not make your family and her family go together?
It will be fun!
And the rooms...better be seperate. Ok?
Best not have any chances of any posibility of doing naughty things. LOL.
I don't believe there to be any real rules here that you absolutely have to follow. Since you want to wait, Can you control yourself is more the issue. If not, it might not be a good idea without a chaperon.
Well no matter how old you are if you want to wait until marriage for sex then do not sleep in the same room alone together. That is just too tempting and is a proximate occasion to sin.
going on a holiday together is OK.
providing of course seperate rooms, and no hanky panky
Either you trust yourself to be faithful to your commitment, or you don't.
Chaperones are just for show.
Not wise. I can not say no but I can say it is not wise. Even grown adults who date and go away need chaperons.
If your foundation is strong you wont need a chaperone, but I would get seperate rooms.
Sin now repent later.
I would like to know where in the bible it says Christians can date? That is a man made concept.
I faced the same situation. I needed to travel to Hawaii for business that would only take one day. I wanted to stay for a week and share it with a woman that I was hoping to marry. We stayed in separate rooms. My reasons were: (a) It was more important to me to obey God than to save money. (b) I saw that it was time to demonstrate that.
Putting yourselves in the same room provides an opportunity for temptation to easily be acted out. The way to deal with temptation is not to “promise yourself to be good”. Many well intentioned people fail when they rely on will-power.
Instead, be realistic about the human condition and plan to avoid situations where temptation can multiple. Boundaries in life are like tools that help in times when your will-power is weak.
There is another element in the equation, which is your reputations. A good reputation is a hard thing to earn, and something that can be lost in one bad move.
Going with another like minded couple is a good idea. As far as a chaperon goes, I guess you have to make that call if your circumstances warrant it, for example, if the girl's parents were in distress over the matter.
In my circumstances, a chaperon wasn't needed. Assuming your an adult, this is an opportunity to demonstrate your maturity.
By the way, we had a great time in Hawaii. It turns out that we didn’t get married.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Christian dating advice?
Ok so im 15 and i really like this guy who is 13 but im afraid that might be too young for me. However; im dating this guy thats 18 and only wants to have sex which i have not yet given in to. Kirby who is 13 doesn't want that behavior and is a sweet guy. I dont know what to do, i kissed Kirby today which is horrible cuz im dating James but i didn't plan it, it just happened like that. I'm so confused. I want what God wants for my life but right now im thinking he put someone into my life that is great, but the one i'm dating right now isn't the best and he wants me to move in with him in 6 months and if me and him are still dating.
so questions are
1. Do i tell James i kissed Kirby?
2. Should i break up with James?
3. Should i go out with Kirby?
4. Should i just take a break?Christian dating advice?
Look, okay, so Kirby sounds like the kind of guy you should be dating. He seems more suited to your current tastes and vows. I think maybe you should try it with him. But then again you'd have to break it off with James. Good luck with that.
:3Christian dating advice?
1. No. Unless you are really brave and want to be honest with James and take the possibility of him breaking up with you.
2. Yeah. If you are a Christian, and you don't want sex before marriage, then break up with him. Better safe than sorry.
3. If you think that you are ready and don't mind him being younger, go ahead.
4. Maybe that would be a good idea.
Hope this helps.
As a christian break u with James and take a break God doesnt want us to have that pressure and at our age He wouldnt give us that pressure so pick neither and take a break. What in the world are you going out with 15 year old any way. Sorry but that plain Stupid you two live in different spectrums. Just break it off.
well i think you should break up with james it seems like your not that happy with him.tell him you kissed curby and go out with curby. dont take a break i think kurby is rite for you take hi while you have chance.
take a break hon :) ur way too young to be worrying about all this drama
good luck... God bless ya
Take a break. :)
Take a break at 15 guys will come and go and when dating and kissing gets involved it can lead to more even heartbreak and a bad rep ..Don't set yourself up for heartbreak..k nor is god doing this at your age he may be giving you friends but not a boyfriend nor is he telling a 15 year old to move in with a guy that's sin..Slow it down and do more productive stuff that god will enjoy don't go fast in life it will bring things you don't want nor will you be able to handle..bottom line dating can be a door your not ready for so dont open it to fast..Save yourself for your husband and give it time sex is suppose to be precious you rush it you get what it brings..What do you think you parents would do if you got pregnant and then left alone ..be careful of what your doing expecially at 15..
You can't continue being with a man who is forcing you to do things you don't want to do and doesn't respect your religious values. That isn't love. He is selfish.
You have to end it because you will only continue living a lie and hurting yourself and giving your current man the upper hand and power.
Be honest with your current man and tell him about the other guy you're interested in. He will find out sooner or later anyways from others or from the way you act around him (the new man).
Take some time after the breakup to reflect on yourself and decide what you want from there.
Go for the younger guy if you really like him. Become really good friends as well. It will make it easier to stay true to your religious beliefs if you focus on the friendship part. Plus if he is younger he isn't as horny yet and probably will have more respect for you.
Good luck =)
You must realize that at this point in your life your are just dating, not making life altering decisions. Yes, you did wrong by 'dating' someone and kissing another, but no good will come out of kissing and telling. You obviously do not have much in common with James and should break it off (since yes, at that age all he wants is sex). He may be 18 and want his girlfriend to move in with him, but at only 15 you are no where ready to make those decisions.
Do you really think God is speaking to you about dating, or should you just stick to the standards you have for yourself which should be date someone your own age (option #5).
omg can u even do that?...im quit sure your parents wldnt let you move in with ur bf...and im sorry i dnt even think you should have to think about this..even an idiot cld see what to do.
why wld u stay with james if all he wants is sex and you even said he aint the best!!?..duh break up with him, what so hard about it???
as for kirby, big deal his 2 years younger!..im 19 i would still date 3 years younger if they were mature looking...
bottom line i wldnt tell james you kissed kirby, id break up with james and go out with kirby!
so questions are
1. Do i tell James i kissed Kirby?
2. Should i break up with James?
3. Should i go out with Kirby?
4. Should i just take a break?Christian dating advice?
Look, okay, so Kirby sounds like the kind of guy you should be dating. He seems more suited to your current tastes and vows. I think maybe you should try it with him. But then again you'd have to break it off with James. Good luck with that.
:3Christian dating advice?
1. No. Unless you are really brave and want to be honest with James and take the possibility of him breaking up with you.
2. Yeah. If you are a Christian, and you don't want sex before marriage, then break up with him. Better safe than sorry.
3. If you think that you are ready and don't mind him being younger, go ahead.
4. Maybe that would be a good idea.
Hope this helps.
As a christian break u with James and take a break God doesnt want us to have that pressure and at our age He wouldnt give us that pressure so pick neither and take a break. What in the world are you going out with 15 year old any way. Sorry but that plain Stupid you two live in different spectrums. Just break it off.
well i think you should break up with james it seems like your not that happy with him.tell him you kissed curby and go out with curby. dont take a break i think kurby is rite for you take hi while you have chance.
take a break hon :) ur way too young to be worrying about all this drama
good luck... God bless ya
Take a break. :)
Take a break at 15 guys will come and go and when dating and kissing gets involved it can lead to more even heartbreak and a bad rep ..Don't set yourself up for heartbreak..k nor is god doing this at your age he may be giving you friends but not a boyfriend nor is he telling a 15 year old to move in with a guy that's sin..Slow it down and do more productive stuff that god will enjoy don't go fast in life it will bring things you don't want nor will you be able to handle..bottom line dating can be a door your not ready for so dont open it to fast..Save yourself for your husband and give it time sex is suppose to be precious you rush it you get what it brings..What do you think you parents would do if you got pregnant and then left alone ..be careful of what your doing expecially at 15..
You can't continue being with a man who is forcing you to do things you don't want to do and doesn't respect your religious values. That isn't love. He is selfish.
You have to end it because you will only continue living a lie and hurting yourself and giving your current man the upper hand and power.
Be honest with your current man and tell him about the other guy you're interested in. He will find out sooner or later anyways from others or from the way you act around him (the new man).
Take some time after the breakup to reflect on yourself and decide what you want from there.
Go for the younger guy if you really like him. Become really good friends as well. It will make it easier to stay true to your religious beliefs if you focus on the friendship part. Plus if he is younger he isn't as horny yet and probably will have more respect for you.
Good luck =)
You must realize that at this point in your life your are just dating, not making life altering decisions. Yes, you did wrong by 'dating' someone and kissing another, but no good will come out of kissing and telling. You obviously do not have much in common with James and should break it off (since yes, at that age all he wants is sex). He may be 18 and want his girlfriend to move in with him, but at only 15 you are no where ready to make those decisions.
Do you really think God is speaking to you about dating, or should you just stick to the standards you have for yourself which should be date someone your own age (option #5).
omg can u even do that?...im quit sure your parents wldnt let you move in with ur bf...and im sorry i dnt even think you should have to think about this..even an idiot cld see what to do.
why wld u stay with james if all he wants is sex and you even said he aint the best!!?..duh break up with him, what so hard about it???
as for kirby, big deal his 2 years younger!..im 19 i would still date 3 years younger if they were mature looking...
bottom line i wldnt tell james you kissed kirby, id break up with james and go out with kirby!
What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated? (repost)?
I'm 23 years old and I've never had a bf or dated before. I'm heavily into studies at the moment, and with my Christian faith, I know that I need to be patient and start waiting on God to allow things to happen naturally. How do you be patient in these circumstances? Sometimes I feel unwanted or that something must be wrong with me. I don't have time to date because I'm in graduate school and I'm also studying to get into medical school. Sometimes it saddens me that I have all of these goals that perhaps are pushing guys away from me.... How do I remain patient?What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated? (repost)?
All that is wrong with you is that you are unavailable due to
your work load. In similar circumstances, I have heard of many couples getting married and the pull to achieve by one causes
the two to grow at different rates. Eventually they grow apart.
You are saving yourself the emotional roller coaster of an early
marriage that conflicts with your career goals. When you have
time for mating, it will happen naturally - unless you are too
up tight by then.What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated? (repost)?
Keep being patient, hon, because the best guys are the ones worth waiting for -- and especially if you're going into med school-- you're going to need to stay focused. Then, you will meet a fantastically brilliant fellow med student, and that's who you'll probably marry and have a wonderful life with.
There's nothing wrong with you at all.
It is very good that you are into your studies, but you do need to start interacting with guys. God is not ganna make a beautiful man come to your door the moment you graduate. you have to go out there and find him your self. If you like to remain patient, really ask your self how important your studies are to you. Is this the road you really want to take?? Don't be too hard on your self and live your life. You are only young and 23 once in a life time.
My prediction for your life:-
1.. You will continue on as you have always done, repressing your desires
2.. One night you will get drunk, stoned, laid and tattooed
3.. You will then spend the next years agonizing over this night and not actually learn anything from it. It will just have the effect of somehow reinforcing all the repression.
You should stop depending on ';when god allow things to happen';. I think it would be good for you to take control of your life, focus on school yes.....however that has nothing to do with being single or being unwanted or unable to date.
There's time for everything, forget about what god wants, and find time for friends and for dating etc.
it's not that bad, don't be patient i myself am a fallen catholic, i believe that if you want somethiong dont wait on god to give it to you, because if there is a god he likes seing us sad. if you want it go get it, don't be sleezy or slutty just go somewhere where you feel comforatable and casually approach a guy that you like,
After your studies are over you will have more time for romance. I think in medical school you will meet someone also becoming a Dr. and the two of you will hit it off. It is coming on down the line a little further. Remember there are guys in the same spot you are. Thinking exactly like you are. They are asking themselves when will I ever have time for dating. You will get together some day.
God helps those who help themselves. Maybe you should join some groups where men will have some sort of common interest with you like a church group or a study group. Or if you attend church start talking to some people after the service. Maybe you will meet someone that way. As you seem so dedicated to your faith(nothing wrong with that) try to find someone who shares your beliefs as it is really hard when they don't.
Don't listen to any of these people. I would suggest a christian dating site or just finding someone at church. There are not very many devout christians around your age so they are pretty hard to come by. I dont know the name of a christian dating site, but im sure there are some. If not, e-harmony could probably match you up with someone of the same faith and values. Good luck girlie :)
Pray as far as patience.
Get your head in your studies and also get yourself in physical shape.
You CAN date, but make sure that the guy is into you and you share similar VALUES. Make your education and career your priority. People really shouldn't get married until age 30 because then you've matured and have your education completed with your career started.
Don't worry. There is no lack of men. I wouldn't recommend waiting past 32. If you want children, you'll want to think about the health and age in regard to your eggs.
I wish you all the best! Huge hugs!
KitKat : )
It's hard but it's the path you have chosen. I also went to graduate school and it is very difficult to have a 'significant other'. Once you are out of school and live in the real world, things get much easier. I wish someone had told me this back then because in my student days, I was also a dateless wonder.
Giz
Don't worry. Just keep putting God first and He'll send someone for you at His time. He probably knows that if He sends a guy your way right now that it will take your attention off of your goals. Just try to be patient and pray about it. Good luck!
you dont need to be patient just try it out because if you never try and just wait for a guy to come along you will never know if he is the right one for you. Date a guy a two so you make sure that you get a man that is good for you.
you are still so young! it is better to wait for the right one then to rush into something that might not be right for you in 10 years... if you are feeling impatient though you could try going on Christian dating sites and chats. There you will find people who have the same goals and values as you. You sound like you have so many things going for you... dont worry about a guy right now!
That's not going to put any (decent) guy off. Its not an issue. Kelly Copeland was talking about waiting for your ';assigned'; partner. There are so many awful men. Why dont you tell God that you are ready now, it will happen.
...prayer, luv. Connecting with the right church can be important.
Staying away from bad influences can also help. Movies and tv can influence any Christian into losing focus on what the Lord has for us to do.
your love for Jesus is so pure you should remain chaste instead of debasing yourself with men who will engage in sex which is inherently dirty and sinful.
It is God's timetable, not mankinds. Be grateful and patient.
if guys only knew you were a virgin than they would be all over you unless you are like really ugly or fat.
Start wearing a purity ring; you'll have to beat them off ... with a stick.
~
Good God. Get a life, girl. Mr. Right isn't going to walk into your dorm room and propose. Doctors need love too.
Is there something wrong with you? Yes. Your blind faith and Patience has given you a dull loveless life. Things happen to people who make them happen. Get out there and start communicating with people (guys). Do not bring up the subject of religion. What a turn off. Get your nose out of those books for a while and go outside and sit in the sun and contemplate what your life is going to be like in the future if you keep going down this path your on. Can you not see that you have been blindly disregarding life all around you, for the sake of following some religion ? You are wasting your life on your god.
Forget being patient......go out and grab life by the horns.
If you have a goal in life, and that goal is most important to you, imagine the results of that every time your thoughts lead you astray from your work. There is perhaps no way to remain patient, but there is a way to keep yourself focused. It's advice I could stand to take myself.
More to the point, though, you can't rely on God to give you everything. That's just not how life works. If that future you envision has that special someone in it, then seek him out. Get involved with things and find people who resonate with you. If you don't have time to do that, then again, it's a matter of priorities and staying focused.
I would say pray about it. I guess you understand to be patient, and god will provide. By the sounds of it, you sound a little anxious, or lonely. If you would consider to start dating, just pray about it. A little prayer can go a long ways. It is not a sin to ask for a companion. God's always listening. And, you sound like u have a very busy lifestyle, good job on the studies. If you want to, make time for yourself. Try not to work too hard. I know this sounds a little too much cause u always have to be doing something, but just take it easy and relax. I would say be patient, but saying it is not the same as doing it... Just pray about it. And you'll find someone when u least expected.
All that is wrong with you is that you are unavailable due to
your work load. In similar circumstances, I have heard of many couples getting married and the pull to achieve by one causes
the two to grow at different rates. Eventually they grow apart.
You are saving yourself the emotional roller coaster of an early
marriage that conflicts with your career goals. When you have
time for mating, it will happen naturally - unless you are too
up tight by then.What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated? (repost)?
Keep being patient, hon, because the best guys are the ones worth waiting for -- and especially if you're going into med school-- you're going to need to stay focused. Then, you will meet a fantastically brilliant fellow med student, and that's who you'll probably marry and have a wonderful life with.
There's nothing wrong with you at all.
It is very good that you are into your studies, but you do need to start interacting with guys. God is not ganna make a beautiful man come to your door the moment you graduate. you have to go out there and find him your self. If you like to remain patient, really ask your self how important your studies are to you. Is this the road you really want to take?? Don't be too hard on your self and live your life. You are only young and 23 once in a life time.
My prediction for your life:-
1.. You will continue on as you have always done, repressing your desires
2.. One night you will get drunk, stoned, laid and tattooed
3.. You will then spend the next years agonizing over this night and not actually learn anything from it. It will just have the effect of somehow reinforcing all the repression.
You should stop depending on ';when god allow things to happen';. I think it would be good for you to take control of your life, focus on school yes.....however that has nothing to do with being single or being unwanted or unable to date.
There's time for everything, forget about what god wants, and find time for friends and for dating etc.
it's not that bad, don't be patient i myself am a fallen catholic, i believe that if you want somethiong dont wait on god to give it to you, because if there is a god he likes seing us sad. if you want it go get it, don't be sleezy or slutty just go somewhere where you feel comforatable and casually approach a guy that you like,
After your studies are over you will have more time for romance. I think in medical school you will meet someone also becoming a Dr. and the two of you will hit it off. It is coming on down the line a little further. Remember there are guys in the same spot you are. Thinking exactly like you are. They are asking themselves when will I ever have time for dating. You will get together some day.
God helps those who help themselves. Maybe you should join some groups where men will have some sort of common interest with you like a church group or a study group. Or if you attend church start talking to some people after the service. Maybe you will meet someone that way. As you seem so dedicated to your faith(nothing wrong with that) try to find someone who shares your beliefs as it is really hard when they don't.
Don't listen to any of these people. I would suggest a christian dating site or just finding someone at church. There are not very many devout christians around your age so they are pretty hard to come by. I dont know the name of a christian dating site, but im sure there are some. If not, e-harmony could probably match you up with someone of the same faith and values. Good luck girlie :)
Pray as far as patience.
Get your head in your studies and also get yourself in physical shape.
You CAN date, but make sure that the guy is into you and you share similar VALUES. Make your education and career your priority. People really shouldn't get married until age 30 because then you've matured and have your education completed with your career started.
Don't worry. There is no lack of men. I wouldn't recommend waiting past 32. If you want children, you'll want to think about the health and age in regard to your eggs.
I wish you all the best! Huge hugs!
KitKat : )
It's hard but it's the path you have chosen. I also went to graduate school and it is very difficult to have a 'significant other'. Once you are out of school and live in the real world, things get much easier. I wish someone had told me this back then because in my student days, I was also a dateless wonder.
Giz
Don't worry. Just keep putting God first and He'll send someone for you at His time. He probably knows that if He sends a guy your way right now that it will take your attention off of your goals. Just try to be patient and pray about it. Good luck!
you dont need to be patient just try it out because if you never try and just wait for a guy to come along you will never know if he is the right one for you. Date a guy a two so you make sure that you get a man that is good for you.
you are still so young! it is better to wait for the right one then to rush into something that might not be right for you in 10 years... if you are feeling impatient though you could try going on Christian dating sites and chats. There you will find people who have the same goals and values as you. You sound like you have so many things going for you... dont worry about a guy right now!
That's not going to put any (decent) guy off. Its not an issue. Kelly Copeland was talking about waiting for your ';assigned'; partner. There are so many awful men. Why dont you tell God that you are ready now, it will happen.
...prayer, luv. Connecting with the right church can be important.
Staying away from bad influences can also help. Movies and tv can influence any Christian into losing focus on what the Lord has for us to do.
your love for Jesus is so pure you should remain chaste instead of debasing yourself with men who will engage in sex which is inherently dirty and sinful.
It is God's timetable, not mankinds. Be grateful and patient.
if guys only knew you were a virgin than they would be all over you unless you are like really ugly or fat.
Start wearing a purity ring; you'll have to beat them off ... with a stick.
~
Good God. Get a life, girl. Mr. Right isn't going to walk into your dorm room and propose. Doctors need love too.
Is there something wrong with you? Yes. Your blind faith and Patience has given you a dull loveless life. Things happen to people who make them happen. Get out there and start communicating with people (guys). Do not bring up the subject of religion. What a turn off. Get your nose out of those books for a while and go outside and sit in the sun and contemplate what your life is going to be like in the future if you keep going down this path your on. Can you not see that you have been blindly disregarding life all around you, for the sake of following some religion ? You are wasting your life on your god.
Forget being patient......go out and grab life by the horns.
If you have a goal in life, and that goal is most important to you, imagine the results of that every time your thoughts lead you astray from your work. There is perhaps no way to remain patient, but there is a way to keep yourself focused. It's advice I could stand to take myself.
More to the point, though, you can't rely on God to give you everything. That's just not how life works. If that future you envision has that special someone in it, then seek him out. Get involved with things and find people who resonate with you. If you don't have time to do that, then again, it's a matter of priorities and staying focused.
I would say pray about it. I guess you understand to be patient, and god will provide. By the sounds of it, you sound a little anxious, or lonely. If you would consider to start dating, just pray about it. A little prayer can go a long ways. It is not a sin to ask for a companion. God's always listening. And, you sound like u have a very busy lifestyle, good job on the studies. If you want to, make time for yourself. Try not to work too hard. I know this sounds a little too much cause u always have to be doing something, but just take it easy and relax. I would say be patient, but saying it is not the same as doing it... Just pray about it. And you'll find someone when u least expected.
What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated?
I'm 23 years old and I've never had a bf or dated before. I'm heavily into studies at the moment, and with my Christian faith, I know that I need to be patient and start waiting on God to allow things to happen naturally. How do you be patient in these circumstances? Sometimes I feel unwanted or that something must be wrong with me. I don't have time to date because I'm in graduate school and I'm also studying to get into medical school. Sometimes it saddens me that I have all of these goals that perhaps are pushing guys away from me.... Help?What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated?
Your Asian , Right ?
Many Asians put study first in their early life , if you are 23 , I would guess you are almost finished your studies . Why not finish them off %26amp; then look for a BF or if you want one now , why not look at your class mates who have similar goals as you.Just be careful the wrong BF could drag your mind off your studies %26amp; it would be a shame to fail so close to the finish.
If you are not Asian then the same thing applies.
I am sure you are a beautiful person %26amp; will find the right boy , just take your time.
If you want a friend then you are welcome to email meWhat advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated?
I'm not asian, but thank-you for the wonderful answer.
Well, ';stop waiting and get yourself a date before you're over the hill'; comes to mind immediately. If you don't have time to date and you're heavily into studies, that implies that your non-dating is a choice. Why then do you feel unwanted? How would you even KNOW whether or not you're wanted unless you put yourself out there and make yourself available to date?
...and there's your problem right there ';... waiting on god....';.
To do what exacly? Have you no sense as to what you want and what you don't want? Can't you tell between an azz hole and one who is not? Where's your judgement in the matter? Oh that's right.. your ';waiting on an invisible entity to supply the goods..... '; ...good luck with that.
Don't worry dear, im 18 and have never had a boyfriend either, in a way though i think its Gods way of protecting me, i have very very very high standards for guys so maybe thats why, i really could care less about the whole dating thing, i figure if God has a man for me he will bring him to me and i won't have to go out chasing guys, God will bring you the right person when the time is right. Just focus on your studies now, relationships can cause alot of stress and extra worries that will interfere with school.
God has called some for special purposes and teaches us that only some who are specially gifted to be single at least for a while and that its so they can serve Him in a special way without the constraints of family. It may be for a short time or for life but its a special gift. Also those who trust in God have a promise that He will not only care for them but also give them the desires of their heart.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
yes relationships are not worth it and u cant stop the real one .. if its the real deal it will go smoothly with the goals you have and make you go forward and not stagnate or lose ground .. and u wont have to try to find the right one either it will come to you .. my best advice is stay focused on what you have going on coz it sounds good to me :) .. life isnt passing you by your on top of it at the moment ..
It sounds to me that you have made a lot of correct decisions. Both of my sons are adults, both in college and neither date. They wish to prepare a home to present to their brides and trust that God will lead them to their brides.
Be patient and God will lead.
Congrats on getting into medical school and good luck in all you do! but on to your question: God is not a matchmaker. If you want a bf, then you have to go out and look for one. God will put him in your path, but you have to walk the path to meet him.
My advice is twofold. First, you have chosen the correct priority, education. Second, do not let society and american culture make you feel inferior because you are not ';doing the dating scene'; the way peer pressure says we should. God has given life to you to make your own decisions. he will bless our decisions if we ask, but He will not make them for us. You,ve plenty of time for dating and romance, get your life together first. Thanks for sharing and Godspeed on your journey.
First don't date a man who is not a christian and not a virgin. Second wait for confirmation from God when you find someone who appeals to you. God will lead you if you will listen.
one has to decide do i want to be this medical professional with possibly no spouse.
Should I date now or wait to after I reach my goal.
You should ask god what he wants you to do.
It depends what your objective is. But if someone asks you out, accept the date, for the practice. It's just a date. One date is not going to destroy your academic career. Be honest with the guy.
You need to study the bible for guidance.
I recommend reading Ezekiel 23:19-21
lighten up and enjoy life, not saying you don't, but spend more time just hanging with friends... don't think you have to ';play the dating game';... just be a real friend and don't turn down time to enjoy the simple things with someone.
Ask God to give you the right boyfriend and have faith! God Bless! Good Luck! That special someone will come when God wants them to.
Have you considered a dating service or a matchmaker?
Are there no eligible young men at your church?
JUST BE YOURSELF;
SPREAD YOUR LOVE TO OTHERS;
AND YOU WILL GET LOVE BACK TO YOU
don't allow your feelings to over ride your sense .
get a dildo
GOD WILL THROW A MAN DOWN FOR YOU FROM HEAVEN...lol....be ready to catch it...and remember to thank god!
Continue to get your life in order and the person who said get a dildo is just that. Ignore him/her. You should wait on the guy of your dream so that you can do things the right way. If you do that God will bless you more than ever. I wish I could have saved myself for marriage but the person I thought was going to be my future wife decided to cheat on me. So get your life in order and everything else will fall in place.puffy eye cream
Your Asian , Right ?
Many Asians put study first in their early life , if you are 23 , I would guess you are almost finished your studies . Why not finish them off %26amp; then look for a BF or if you want one now , why not look at your class mates who have similar goals as you.Just be careful the wrong BF could drag your mind off your studies %26amp; it would be a shame to fail so close to the finish.
If you are not Asian then the same thing applies.
I am sure you are a beautiful person %26amp; will find the right boy , just take your time.
If you want a friend then you are welcome to email meWhat advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated?
I'm not asian, but thank-you for the wonderful answer.
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Well, ';stop waiting and get yourself a date before you're over the hill'; comes to mind immediately. If you don't have time to date and you're heavily into studies, that implies that your non-dating is a choice. Why then do you feel unwanted? How would you even KNOW whether or not you're wanted unless you put yourself out there and make yourself available to date?
...and there's your problem right there ';... waiting on god....';.
To do what exacly? Have you no sense as to what you want and what you don't want? Can't you tell between an azz hole and one who is not? Where's your judgement in the matter? Oh that's right.. your ';waiting on an invisible entity to supply the goods..... '; ...good luck with that.
Don't worry dear, im 18 and have never had a boyfriend either, in a way though i think its Gods way of protecting me, i have very very very high standards for guys so maybe thats why, i really could care less about the whole dating thing, i figure if God has a man for me he will bring him to me and i won't have to go out chasing guys, God will bring you the right person when the time is right. Just focus on your studies now, relationships can cause alot of stress and extra worries that will interfere with school.
God has called some for special purposes and teaches us that only some who are specially gifted to be single at least for a while and that its so they can serve Him in a special way without the constraints of family. It may be for a short time or for life but its a special gift. Also those who trust in God have a promise that He will not only care for them but also give them the desires of their heart.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
yes relationships are not worth it and u cant stop the real one .. if its the real deal it will go smoothly with the goals you have and make you go forward and not stagnate or lose ground .. and u wont have to try to find the right one either it will come to you .. my best advice is stay focused on what you have going on coz it sounds good to me :) .. life isnt passing you by your on top of it at the moment ..
It sounds to me that you have made a lot of correct decisions. Both of my sons are adults, both in college and neither date. They wish to prepare a home to present to their brides and trust that God will lead them to their brides.
Be patient and God will lead.
Congrats on getting into medical school and good luck in all you do! but on to your question: God is not a matchmaker. If you want a bf, then you have to go out and look for one. God will put him in your path, but you have to walk the path to meet him.
My advice is twofold. First, you have chosen the correct priority, education. Second, do not let society and american culture make you feel inferior because you are not ';doing the dating scene'; the way peer pressure says we should. God has given life to you to make your own decisions. he will bless our decisions if we ask, but He will not make them for us. You,ve plenty of time for dating and romance, get your life together first. Thanks for sharing and Godspeed on your journey.
First don't date a man who is not a christian and not a virgin. Second wait for confirmation from God when you find someone who appeals to you. God will lead you if you will listen.
one has to decide do i want to be this medical professional with possibly no spouse.
Should I date now or wait to after I reach my goal.
You should ask god what he wants you to do.
It depends what your objective is. But if someone asks you out, accept the date, for the practice. It's just a date. One date is not going to destroy your academic career. Be honest with the guy.
You need to study the bible for guidance.
I recommend reading Ezekiel 23:19-21
lighten up and enjoy life, not saying you don't, but spend more time just hanging with friends... don't think you have to ';play the dating game';... just be a real friend and don't turn down time to enjoy the simple things with someone.
Ask God to give you the right boyfriend and have faith! God Bless! Good Luck! That special someone will come when God wants them to.
Have you considered a dating service or a matchmaker?
Are there no eligible young men at your church?
JUST BE YOURSELF;
SPREAD YOUR LOVE TO OTHERS;
AND YOU WILL GET LOVE BACK TO YOU
don't allow your feelings to over ride your sense .
get a dildo
GOD WILL THROW A MAN DOWN FOR YOU FROM HEAVEN...lol....be ready to catch it...and remember to thank god!
Continue to get your life in order and the person who said get a dildo is just that. Ignore him/her. You should wait on the guy of your dream so that you can do things the right way. If you do that God will bless you more than ever. I wish I could have saved myself for marriage but the person I thought was going to be my future wife decided to cheat on me. So get your life in order and everything else will fall in place.
Christian Advice! I wanna date my best friend.. shes sometimes brings up that we wont get married . but i do.?
I dont know how to tell her i really like her,, im 19 shes 18 shes really a great girl.. i was always that dumb jock that got all the girls and she knew about them.. now i wanna be with her but shes my bestfriend.. through good and bad...Christian Advice! I wanna date my best friend.. shes sometimes brings up that we wont get married . but i do.?
This may be an unpopular answer, but as Christians, what's important is God's will, not necessarily what's popular.
If you aren't ready to marry her, then don't even ask her out. The reason why is because if you don't marry her, you WILL hurt her eventually through a breakup. Would love do that? You say that she's your best friend. Could you hurt her like that without backing up your promises with a commitment? You have to understand what it does to women when you pay attention to them; you constantly have to live up to what you profess, or they will get hurt. Do you want to hurt your best friend?
If your goal is to eventually be a godly, faithful, Christian husband, then start being that man right now. Stop dating girls and get to know God. Your friend doesn't see you as marriage material because you fool around with all these other girls. She wants to follow a godly Christian leader, someone who she won't ever have to worry about being faithful to her. How can she trust you if you keep dating these other women? She wants to know that she's the only one, and she must be the only one. If you aren't man enough to commit to her, then leave her alone until you are ready. Put her on the altar of your heart before God and pray, pray, pray . . . not that you two would be together, but that God's will would be done. As His child, God wants to bless you more than you will ever know, and you may be holding onto something far less than His best.
I would highly recommend a book by Elisabeth Elliot called Passion and Purity. It's packed with wisdom. Also, check out the following sermon:
http://server.firefighters.org/catalog/1鈥?/a>
May our Lord fill you with wisdom. :)Christian Advice! I wanna date my best friend.. shes sometimes brings up that we wont get married . but i do.?
you should tell her how you feel. She's probably feeling the same way.
just say it to her with all honesty... there is no harm in trying anyway... how will you know if you wont even try...
Wow. It sounds like you feel pretty strong about her! If you really consider her your best friend then you really need to tell her. Not just that you like her, but tell her everything: how you feel, what you think of her, why she's special. I know that would be really hard cuz you're putting you heart on the line, but what would be worst: never telling her you love her and wishing you had or to tell her and find out how she feels, whether she feels the same or not?? Save yourself some heartache and go for it. If it doesn't work out, trust me, you'll feel so much better for at least doing it. That will help you move on. Best of Luck and I hope you get your girl. You sound like a sweety!
Just tell her that you like her...and you're sorry that you didn't realize it sooner...best friends make the best marriages. Sounds like you might actually be maturing..watch out..this can be habit forming and you might turn out to be a man...LOL
Reiterating exactly what you've said here would be an excellent startr. Tell her ALL the reasons why you do like her...she'll probably put you on probabtion (because she knows you..LOL) or be willing to give it a trial run (dating) so long as you're a gentleman and behave yourself the way a mature MAN ought to...no boozing, parties, chasing girls, running around with your friends constantly..etc
Nice to see someone that is done chasing skirts and has started pursuing character, instead.
(Proverbs 31:10) Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
(Proverbs 31:11) The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
(Proverbs 31:12) She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
I don't understand - what kind of christian advice do you need here?
Is it because of religious differences that she won't marry you %26amp; you are asking us what can be done about it?
Tell her you like her! Don't worry about those marriage comments, you're way too young to even think about that. Just let her know that you have liked her for a while and would like to be more than friends.
You can't force anyone into marriage, and she's not wanting that right now. It's ok, you're both too young to make a major life change like that without a LOT of thought and committment--she's probably well aware of that.
Be friends, be with her, hang out, but don't push the marriage thing or she'll end up backing away. It has to be a mutual decision.
If you guys are best friends now, then you can continue to be friends if the relationship doesn't work out. Go for it man. Never have to ask yourself what could have been.
Be nice to her and others will follow.
just say it!
This may be an unpopular answer, but as Christians, what's important is God's will, not necessarily what's popular.
If you aren't ready to marry her, then don't even ask her out. The reason why is because if you don't marry her, you WILL hurt her eventually through a breakup. Would love do that? You say that she's your best friend. Could you hurt her like that without backing up your promises with a commitment? You have to understand what it does to women when you pay attention to them; you constantly have to live up to what you profess, or they will get hurt. Do you want to hurt your best friend?
If your goal is to eventually be a godly, faithful, Christian husband, then start being that man right now. Stop dating girls and get to know God. Your friend doesn't see you as marriage material because you fool around with all these other girls. She wants to follow a godly Christian leader, someone who she won't ever have to worry about being faithful to her. How can she trust you if you keep dating these other women? She wants to know that she's the only one, and she must be the only one. If you aren't man enough to commit to her, then leave her alone until you are ready. Put her on the altar of your heart before God and pray, pray, pray . . . not that you two would be together, but that God's will would be done. As His child, God wants to bless you more than you will ever know, and you may be holding onto something far less than His best.
I would highly recommend a book by Elisabeth Elliot called Passion and Purity. It's packed with wisdom. Also, check out the following sermon:
http://server.firefighters.org/catalog/1鈥?/a>
May our Lord fill you with wisdom. :)Christian Advice! I wanna date my best friend.. shes sometimes brings up that we wont get married . but i do.?
you should tell her how you feel. She's probably feeling the same way.
just say it to her with all honesty... there is no harm in trying anyway... how will you know if you wont even try...
Wow. It sounds like you feel pretty strong about her! If you really consider her your best friend then you really need to tell her. Not just that you like her, but tell her everything: how you feel, what you think of her, why she's special. I know that would be really hard cuz you're putting you heart on the line, but what would be worst: never telling her you love her and wishing you had or to tell her and find out how she feels, whether she feels the same or not?? Save yourself some heartache and go for it. If it doesn't work out, trust me, you'll feel so much better for at least doing it. That will help you move on. Best of Luck and I hope you get your girl. You sound like a sweety!
Just tell her that you like her...and you're sorry that you didn't realize it sooner...best friends make the best marriages. Sounds like you might actually be maturing..watch out..this can be habit forming and you might turn out to be a man...LOL
Reiterating exactly what you've said here would be an excellent startr. Tell her ALL the reasons why you do like her...she'll probably put you on probabtion (because she knows you..LOL) or be willing to give it a trial run (dating) so long as you're a gentleman and behave yourself the way a mature MAN ought to...no boozing, parties, chasing girls, running around with your friends constantly..etc
Nice to see someone that is done chasing skirts and has started pursuing character, instead.
(Proverbs 31:10) Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
(Proverbs 31:11) The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
(Proverbs 31:12) She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
I don't understand - what kind of christian advice do you need here?
Is it because of religious differences that she won't marry you %26amp; you are asking us what can be done about it?
Tell her you like her! Don't worry about those marriage comments, you're way too young to even think about that. Just let her know that you have liked her for a while and would like to be more than friends.
You can't force anyone into marriage, and she's not wanting that right now. It's ok, you're both too young to make a major life change like that without a LOT of thought and committment--she's probably well aware of that.
Be friends, be with her, hang out, but don't push the marriage thing or she'll end up backing away. It has to be a mutual decision.
If you guys are best friends now, then you can continue to be friends if the relationship doesn't work out. Go for it man. Never have to ask yourself what could have been.
Be nice to her and others will follow.
just say it!
I am Christian and dating a mormon... i need some advice about kids.. just read my details?
Ok well first off i am a single mom who has already been divorced.. and now raising my 11 month old son.. i am christian, and was raised that way. i do believe it's good to raise your children in your religon.. but i don't want him to think any other religon is wrong, that's for him to decide when he grows up.. ok so that's a little about me.. now i am dating a guy who is mormon.. and he has no problem dating me, or kissing me, any of those things.. even eventually getting romantically involved. but my question is.. is this all ok, i mean if i ever got married to a mormon, i would never become mormon, and i wouldn't raise my son that way. how would all of that work.. i have asked him about the way things work about marrying someone who isn't mormon, and he told me, it doesn't matter what the person is, mormon or not, if you love them, then people will except that you are both different. if we ever had kids. what religon would they be. i am not against his beliefs.I am Christian and dating a mormon... i need some advice about kids.. just read my details?
Try to stick with the same religion or make him christian. These mormom people made up stories and its not worth fighting about it after marriage.
My boyfriend is Hindu and I am christian and I changed him and now he is christian and will get baptized before marriage. Thats love and I changed him coz I want him to be with me in heaven.I am Christian and dating a mormon... i need some advice about kids.. just read my details?
please focus to your baby and your health first before thinking about guys out there...in my experience...when I'm still dating everything seems OK....but my dear,.... religion,money, relationship with in-laws are the common root of misunderstanding between husband and wife that leads to divorce...stop dating.
This is for you and your partner to discuss ahead of marriage. You and your families all need to be happy about what you all believe and how your children should be raised.
To give you some pointers, here's a website where this topic is discussed. I hope this helps. Good luck!
I am a ';Mormon'; and I can promise you that you will get a lot of bad information here on Y!Answers. So from the details you provided, it sounds like you are simply worried he'll pressure you or your son into converting to the ';Mormon'; religion. I obviously don't know him, but I can tell you that he probably will try to teach you, and share the Gospel with you. You should not feel forced though. You do not have to be Mormon to marry another Mormon. I believe marrying outside your religion can introduce additional pressures on a marriage, but it depends on the commitment level each of you have to your own beliefs. I would defintely recommed talking it out with him. Explain your concerns to him, base your decisions on his response and Heavenly Father's answer after praying about it. Good Luck to you and your son
If you have reservations about this then I suggest you tread VERY carefully. There are some couples that can pull off an interfaith marriage, others cannot.
I, too, am Christian, but I have learned you have Christians %26amp; non-christians. It's those man-made rules %26amp; ideas that seem to get us into trouble; not God's.
You both sound like you are very strong in your own faith. I can't tell you whether it will cause problems for you down the road. But if you think it MIGHT, now would be the time to end the relationship, heal %26amp; move on.
Take care of that little one. :)
Mormons believe God was a man in the beginning. and by being what they are gives them all a chance to be Gods. I have a Mormon book. I am Christian. I know a Mormon. He said they are a cult. They have secret concubines. His goal is not to convert you, it is to convert the children. You are female and without significance.
You'd better watch out. Mormons will try to suck you in. There's no way you can marry this guy without becoming a Mormon. Go on the net and look at how Mormon men act after they are married. I don't mean to offend anyone, but this is a reality. I am not prejudiced about anyone's religion (and I am not Christian) but there are some real concerns here for you and your child. Please take the time to get educated about Mormonism. Good luck.
no offence but Christianity is not a religion it is a relationship with God. Anyway, Christians can only do one thing at a time like this, pray. Pray for him if you love him so much and he loves you really loves you then he will change. Ask God if he is the man for you. Your life will be better if you marry the man God has set out for you. If you ever did get married i think the children would decide for themselves. its your job as a parent to guide them into the religion or for christanity, faith, that you believe in.
First of all if you don't sound like you know much about Mormons, you will not find much on this site, you are already getting the wrong information from some people.
Mormons are allowed to marry Non-Mormons, Mormons are Christian, the real name of the Church is The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, you can just say LDS(Latter-Day Saint).
LDS will not force you or your kids to become LDS, that is for you to decide and your kids when they get older. LDS do not practice plural marriage.
Have you talked to your boyfriend and found out what he wants?
gw
Hmm I suggest finding someone else with your religious beliefs. I find it very odd a mormon would date a non mormon usually they are very strict about who they date. But nontheless I think for you, it would just be easier to move on and find a fellow christian. Bringing two religions together is never easy and if you do decide to stay with this man you should ask him what he expects of you for example if he expects you and your son to become mormons. Get all the facts on the table before you say the i do's. Good luck to you!
ok is his family into ';plural marriage';? if so then run, head for the hills! i'd be very careful about continuing a relationship with this person because he's not being all together honest with you. mormons go on mission strictly for religious conversion. if his family is that much into their religion he's probably gone on mission himself. men in the mormon culture are true heads of their households, carefully look at his parent infrastructure to determine if he's going to mirror their behavior. just be careful about progressing your relationship with him and seriously study their culture/religious from an unbiased point of view and what i mean by that is not propaganda put together by the church. personally i wouldn't have gotten into a relationship with a non-christian. Good luck.
Sounds like you've already thought this through pretty well and he has too.
Myself, I would sit down and talk with the family and let them know that your child and future children will not be forced into any particular religion. As a child you can introduce them to both, when they get older, as you said, let them decide which religion they prefer.
I know a couple that were married for 40 + years and they were different beliefs. (One is deceased now.) But they loved each other and practiced their own religions and never tried to force one on the other and it worked out just fine, till death did they part!
Try to stick with the same religion or make him christian. These mormom people made up stories and its not worth fighting about it after marriage.
My boyfriend is Hindu and I am christian and I changed him and now he is christian and will get baptized before marriage. Thats love and I changed him coz I want him to be with me in heaven.I am Christian and dating a mormon... i need some advice about kids.. just read my details?
please focus to your baby and your health first before thinking about guys out there...in my experience...when I'm still dating everything seems OK....but my dear,.... religion,money, relationship with in-laws are the common root of misunderstanding between husband and wife that leads to divorce...stop dating.
This is for you and your partner to discuss ahead of marriage. You and your families all need to be happy about what you all believe and how your children should be raised.
To give you some pointers, here's a website where this topic is discussed. I hope this helps. Good luck!
I am a ';Mormon'; and I can promise you that you will get a lot of bad information here on Y!Answers. So from the details you provided, it sounds like you are simply worried he'll pressure you or your son into converting to the ';Mormon'; religion. I obviously don't know him, but I can tell you that he probably will try to teach you, and share the Gospel with you. You should not feel forced though. You do not have to be Mormon to marry another Mormon. I believe marrying outside your religion can introduce additional pressures on a marriage, but it depends on the commitment level each of you have to your own beliefs. I would defintely recommed talking it out with him. Explain your concerns to him, base your decisions on his response and Heavenly Father's answer after praying about it. Good Luck to you and your son
If you have reservations about this then I suggest you tread VERY carefully. There are some couples that can pull off an interfaith marriage, others cannot.
I, too, am Christian, but I have learned you have Christians %26amp; non-christians. It's those man-made rules %26amp; ideas that seem to get us into trouble; not God's.
You both sound like you are very strong in your own faith. I can't tell you whether it will cause problems for you down the road. But if you think it MIGHT, now would be the time to end the relationship, heal %26amp; move on.
Take care of that little one. :)
Mormons believe God was a man in the beginning. and by being what they are gives them all a chance to be Gods. I have a Mormon book. I am Christian. I know a Mormon. He said they are a cult. They have secret concubines. His goal is not to convert you, it is to convert the children. You are female and without significance.
You'd better watch out. Mormons will try to suck you in. There's no way you can marry this guy without becoming a Mormon. Go on the net and look at how Mormon men act after they are married. I don't mean to offend anyone, but this is a reality. I am not prejudiced about anyone's religion (and I am not Christian) but there are some real concerns here for you and your child. Please take the time to get educated about Mormonism. Good luck.
no offence but Christianity is not a religion it is a relationship with God. Anyway, Christians can only do one thing at a time like this, pray. Pray for him if you love him so much and he loves you really loves you then he will change. Ask God if he is the man for you. Your life will be better if you marry the man God has set out for you. If you ever did get married i think the children would decide for themselves. its your job as a parent to guide them into the religion or for christanity, faith, that you believe in.
First of all if you don't sound like you know much about Mormons, you will not find much on this site, you are already getting the wrong information from some people.
Mormons are allowed to marry Non-Mormons, Mormons are Christian, the real name of the Church is The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, you can just say LDS(Latter-Day Saint).
LDS will not force you or your kids to become LDS, that is for you to decide and your kids when they get older. LDS do not practice plural marriage.
Have you talked to your boyfriend and found out what he wants?
gw
Hmm I suggest finding someone else with your religious beliefs. I find it very odd a mormon would date a non mormon usually they are very strict about who they date. But nontheless I think for you, it would just be easier to move on and find a fellow christian. Bringing two religions together is never easy and if you do decide to stay with this man you should ask him what he expects of you for example if he expects you and your son to become mormons. Get all the facts on the table before you say the i do's. Good luck to you!
ok is his family into ';plural marriage';? if so then run, head for the hills! i'd be very careful about continuing a relationship with this person because he's not being all together honest with you. mormons go on mission strictly for religious conversion. if his family is that much into their religion he's probably gone on mission himself. men in the mormon culture are true heads of their households, carefully look at his parent infrastructure to determine if he's going to mirror their behavior. just be careful about progressing your relationship with him and seriously study their culture/religious from an unbiased point of view and what i mean by that is not propaganda put together by the church. personally i wouldn't have gotten into a relationship with a non-christian. Good luck.
Sounds like you've already thought this through pretty well and he has too.
Myself, I would sit down and talk with the family and let them know that your child and future children will not be forced into any particular religion. As a child you can introduce them to both, when they get older, as you said, let them decide which religion they prefer.
I know a couple that were married for 40 + years and they were different beliefs. (One is deceased now.) But they loved each other and practiced their own religions and never tried to force one on the other and it worked out just fine, till death did they part!
Have any advice or good sources of information on Christian dating? I need help now. ?
I am well over 30 and dating. It was my Christian women friends who said, ';why not?';. No, I dont follow them blindly...but I do respect their input and believe it is important to fellowship and get good Christian counsel. Anyhow, now that I have met someone through my church--it has become rather complicated. Seems that every couple we meet has one member that is pushing for marriage and the other is just trying to figure out what to do. These are all nice people and devoted service oriented Christians. But none of them can make up their minds on the issues of meeting (is it God ordained and if so, what do we look for?), dating, marriage, sex and the rest of it. I'd like to tell myself that life expectancy wasnt so long when the bible was written and therefore, its different when you have an annulment over age 35....but noah lived to be like 600 or something and he had only one wife.....You should know that every one of these people wants a God Blessed commited marriage...not one of them would shy away if they were sure.....but since we already have a past and since we are all sinners anyhow....how are we supposed to know what to do? We have prayed together in small groups and me and my guy pray all the time. Is dating just strictly off limits for those that are divorced? widowed? or otherwise single over 35? help. Have any advice or good sources of information on Christian dating? I need help now. ?
If both of you focus your eyes on Jesus, you should be fine. Discuss frankly with each other about each other's expectation in life and not be blinded by love at cloud 9. Establish spiritual intimacy before the physical touch. Only Jesus makes both man %26amp; women complete, not the two of them. Have any advice or good sources of information on Christian dating? I need help now. ?
You've become mired in the false statements and desires of those past who have changed the original texts of the Bible to suit their needs. What you see in print today is a far cry from the original first century scripts.
Life only has the meaning you give it.
You are over the age of 35, that is a good thing when it comes to dating. After a certain amount of time, your experience whether good or bad can help guide you through the youthful lusts and experiences. My thoughts are this, are you completely over your previous relationships, or is this one an extension of that? If so, slow it down and ask God for good counsel before you continue any further with her. Two, before you got with her, was there a signal within you that said that she was worth marrying? Dating's plan is truly a preparation for marriage, never get with no one that you cannot forsee yourself being engaged to for a lifetime. Next, bring healing to that women as you are, because good relationships stand when the man first stands for a woman that is hurting. It is funny that no relationship whould exist if that were not true, pray for and over her. Last, make sure you continue to walk with God first, being steadfast as his mouthpiece in this relationship.
God hates divorce, but if you two have come to an agreement then move on. Otherwise, sit back and align yourself with God.
I hope this helps
If both of you focus your eyes on Jesus, you should be fine. Discuss frankly with each other about each other's expectation in life and not be blinded by love at cloud 9. Establish spiritual intimacy before the physical touch. Only Jesus makes both man %26amp; women complete, not the two of them. Have any advice or good sources of information on Christian dating? I need help now. ?
You've become mired in the false statements and desires of those past who have changed the original texts of the Bible to suit their needs. What you see in print today is a far cry from the original first century scripts.
Life only has the meaning you give it.
You are over the age of 35, that is a good thing when it comes to dating. After a certain amount of time, your experience whether good or bad can help guide you through the youthful lusts and experiences. My thoughts are this, are you completely over your previous relationships, or is this one an extension of that? If so, slow it down and ask God for good counsel before you continue any further with her. Two, before you got with her, was there a signal within you that said that she was worth marrying? Dating's plan is truly a preparation for marriage, never get with no one that you cannot forsee yourself being engaged to for a lifetime. Next, bring healing to that women as you are, because good relationships stand when the man first stands for a woman that is hurting. It is funny that no relationship whould exist if that were not true, pray for and over her. Last, make sure you continue to walk with God first, being steadfast as his mouthpiece in this relationship.
God hates divorce, but if you two have come to an agreement then move on. Otherwise, sit back and align yourself with God.
I hope this helps
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